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The Art of Caring Less to Live More
Finding Freedom Through Healthy Detachment
Simon Livingston
November 15, 2024 • Est. Read Time: 5 minutes
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Welcome to Finding Freedom Through Healthy Detachment
That voice in your head telling you to defend your position at all costs, it's time to let it go. Your worth isn't determined by being 'right'.
We've all listened to someone and thought, 'They're wrong and stupid for believing that.' (Sometimes, that person is even ourselves!)
Staying engaged while maintaining emotional boundaries is like being in the ocean but choosing which waves to ride. It's about recognizing that feelings are messengers, not enemies to be fought or challenges to overcome. Whether navigating heated debates or personal goals, keeping a mindful distance helps us focus less on rigid outcomes (like that perfect six-pack or career title) and more on the journey itself. When we release our grip on specific results and stop treating emotions as problems to solve, we create space for genuine growth and authentic connections. It's the art of caring deeply while maintaining perspective, freeing ourselves from the exhausting cycle of attachment to outcomes in a world that often pushes us to do the opposite.
Feeding your brain a steady diet of beliefs that confirm your own is like binging on junk food - it may feel good in the moment, but it'll leave your mind bloated and sluggish. Try switching to a more balanced mental diet with some healthy, fact-based perspectives to challenge and strengthen your cognitive muscles.
Action for today:
Break free from your information comfort zone by consuming news today from an outlet that contradicts your formed opinions. Ask yourself, without judgment, what life circumstances could make their stance reasonable to you.
Ideally, consider switching altogether to a news source focused on facts rather than popular opinion*:
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Your physical wellbeing requires healthy boundaries with your habits and others' expectations. Ignoring these boundaries leads to burnout, injury, and an obsessive attachment to rigid outcomes like a "perfect" body. Instead, focus on nourishing your body through sustainable lifestyle changes and cultivating self-acceptance, not chasing unrealistic ideals. The journey of caring for your physical health is what matters most, not an arbitrary finish line.
Action for today:
Identify one fitness goal based on how you want to feel, not just how you want to look. For example, ‘I will do cardio so that I feel energized and not exhausted when I take the stairs’, or ‘I will practice balancing exercises to feel more confident and steady on my feet.’
Clean out your pantry and fridge, donating or discarding items that don't serve these health goals. This helps create an environment that supports your new mindset.
Emotional sovereignty enables authentic relationships, but without it, you risk losing yourself in others' needs. Opposing views only threaten your sense of self if you let them - confidence comes from within, not from convincing everyone else.
Action for today:
Practice a 3-breath pause before responding to emotional triggers. This creates space to regulate your reaction.
Tonight, make time to reflect on any times today when you struggled to keep your composure. Consider what you were feeling in the moment and what life experiences may have shaped that emotional response. This self-awareness can strengthen your emotional sovereignty.
Thank you for reading and remember — staying detached doesn't mean you're coming unglued!
Simon
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